02/06/08

What's Your Fragrance Under Pressure?

Tonight I went to Walgreens to pick up some items and I decided to stop by the perfume counter and ask them if they had any perfume samples. I wasn't too impressed with many of them until I took a whiff of Glo After Dark by JLo. This is me! I shouted. There are very few fragrances that I enjoy but this one just seemed to wake me up. It is not flowery like the others. Neither is it pungent. In my opinion it stands out because it has a soft almost chocolaty undertone to the scent. I got so excited the young lady assisting me started to laugh.

When I got home, without even saying hello to my sister I said, "JLo has a fragrance called Glo After Dark that I really like!" I was so excited and felt alive. You're probaby wondering why? There are only 2, now 3, scents in my lifetime that have been exactly what I really liked without hesitation and that still smell wonderfuly good on me after a few minutes or hours of wearing them.

It lead me to think about our fragrance. I'm not talking about your body scent or odor. I'm talking about your attitude. How do you affect those around you? Are they excited when they come into your presence or are they running for cover? Do they tolerate you or do they gravitate to you? What kind of fragrance are you giving off? Is it funky or is it sweet? I'm sure you all have heard the illustration that if you place a tea bag in an empty cup, you won't be able to smell much, if anything at all. But pour hot water on the tea bag and in minutes you will be able to smell the fragrance.

How do you react or respond when you're in hot water? Are you candid yet kind? Or are you rude and obnoxious? What fragrance are you giving off under pressure? It takes maturity, experience and wisdom to be able to respond to people with respect and kindness, even in stressful situations. If you want to see the characteristics and attitudes that you need to work on, just observe how you respond to people when they do or say something that you don't like, or when you are under a lot of pressure with people breathing down your neck. Most of us have to learn how to respond instead of react in volatile, stressful situations (of course I am not talking about life threatening situations, if you are being physically attacked, by all means, defend yourself!). For many, it is a lifetime of learning but the lessons can be learned. Try this:

1. Start by doing some inventory or observing how you respond in certain situations.
2. Now ask yourself why you may have a "funky" fragrance in these particular situations.
3. Begin taking a look at the people that you get "funky" around.
4. Now ask yourself why.
5. Take classes, purchase books, listen to CD's, or hire a coach to support you in discovering why and how to heal, then mature in these areas so that you can give off a "sweeter" fragrance.

Yes it takes time and effort (and humility). But it's worth it in the end. So join me in working towards your sweeter fragrance (I'm still working on mine!)

Feel free to contact me at 813-343-4112 or Clestine@DivineDiscipline.com for a 30 minute complimentary coaching session or to register for one of my coaching programs or packages, and let me support you in discovering how to learn how to navigate through your situations so you can have a sweeter fragrance.

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